Just because you’re a Christian doesn’t mean you’re perfect. By that same token, just because you’re in a Christian marriage doesn’t mean it’s perfect either.
If you’re willing to drop the thinking that you’ve got to be perfect and so does your marriage, you can soon be on your way to health and happiness in what may be the second most important relationship of your life besides God.
In this article you’ll discover some practical things you can do that will make your marriage a joy, not a burden, and your spouse someone you look forward to spending time with regardless of your last disagreement.
When I first got married, I thought that it was my spouse’s job to make me happy. The Bible tells us that ultimately, God is the only one that can make us happy, as long as we seek to get our needs met in Him.
Usually, a Christian couple that is truly content, seeks to get their individual needs met by God. To get your needs met by God, you’ve got to spend time with Him on a daily basis. This includes reading the Bible, praying, engaging in worship, and learning to hear His voice. When each spouse has a solid relationship with God, they are then able to give to each other, perhaps even putting the other’s needs above their own.
You’ve probably heard the saying that the couple who prays together stays together. As corny as it may sound, it’s true. Why? Something unexplainable, even supernatural happens when a Christian couple who truly knows the Lord come together in prayer. It’s as if their spirits become one before the throne of the Father in heaven.
Dissension, disagreements, and division tend to have less play in such a marriage, and generally, a deeper level of intimacy, spiritually, emotionally, and physically occurs. As many days each week as you can, commit to six minutes of praying together, each partner doing the following for one minute each: giving thanks for your spouse, asking for forgiveness from your spouse, and blessing your spouse.
Putting your spouse before yourself is not only a Biblical concept but one that works when it comes to having a successful relationship. When you’ve decided to get your needs met primarily through God, and then your spouse (in that order), you’ve got what it takes to put your spouse and their needs before your own. What an incredible dynamic this is.
While most couples in a relationship are more concerned about what’s in it for them, your focus can be on what’s in it for your spouse, as you seek to meet his or her needs. How refreshing it is to seek to minister and truly give without any expectation of return! You’ll know great joy and fulfillment if you go this route.
Spending quality time with God, praying together as a couple, and asking for forgiveness from each other are important character qualities found in successful Christian marriages. Couples who not only know these vital secrets but apply them in their relationship will have a marriage that spans a lifetime of joy and fulfillment, and is rewarding beyond words.
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